Parenting lesson #19: “Because I said so” makes so much sense to me now.

It’s already started.  Not only has Eliza begun asking every question, regardless whether she knows the answer, about 7-9 times, but now she’s adding the “why.”  Here’s the most recent example from our car ride an hour ago:

Eliza: “Mommy, where ah we going?”

Me: “We’re going on an adventure to the store.”

E: “But where ah we going?”

Me: “I just told you.  We’re going to the store.”

E (after pausing two seconds): “Where ah we going, Mommy?”

Me: “We’re going to the knitting store for some yarn.”  (Perhaps she’s curious about exactly where we’re going.)

E: “Where ah we going?”

Me: “Where do you think?”

E (pause): “Where ah we going?”

Me: “I’m not going to tell you again.”

E: “Why?”

Me: “Because I already told you.”

E: “Why?”

Me: “I’m not going to talk anymore right now.”

E: “Why?”


This, I know, is going to be the story of my life from here on out.  I did this to my own parents ad nauseum.  I can recall a specific conversation my dad and I had when I was about five.

Dad: “Beanie, just eat your vegetables.”

Me: “Why?”

Dad: “Because they’re good for you.”

Me: “Why?”

Dad: “Because they have vitamins and nutrients your body needs.  Just eat them.”

Me: “Why?”

Dad: “Because God made them that way.”

Me: “Why?”

Dad: “Because I said so.”

Me: “That’s not a reason.”

The curse of genetics strikes again.  It’s fine.  I know I’m just getting a piece of my own medicine.  I always swore I would never say, “Because I said so” to my kids because it drove me nuts when my dad did it to me.  But this one’s for you, Sparky.  I get it now.  I’m just going to try to avoid using it as long as possible.  Because I know it won’t be long before Eliza responds, “That’s not a reason.”


3 thoughts on “Parenting lesson #19: “Because I said so” makes so much sense to me now.

  1. Ah-ha! Payback strikes again!

    How timely that you should write about this today. I have been looking through unmarked VHS tapes. The one I found puts you at about the same age as Eliza. Memory Lane is such fun.

    Regarding the “why” questions . . . Eliza pulled that on me while you all were visiting. It became her mantra after each response–almost like a Lutheran church service. Regardless, I pulled the grand finale with a “Because I said so!” (Memory Lane resurrected) Some day, you’ll be viewing those priceless recordings of your childrens’ childhood and smiling from ear-to-ear.

  2. This is funny. Jack always asks where we are going too! Like yesterday he kept saying “Where are we going?” and I kept saying “David and Andrew’s house.” I can’t figure out why he keeps asking me the same question over and over again, but it usually is when we are in the car going somewhere!

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