Those are actually my sun-deprived legs on that toilet seat. While the image is very staged, it’s not that far from the daily truth. Sure, the view has changed over the years. When my parenthood journey began, the bathroom view would have shown a bouncy seat with my now 11-year-old daughter in it. Then it would have been her as a toddler pulling on my legs while my first son, who is nine, lay in the bouncy seat. Here and there, dog number one would join the show. Then kid number three entered the picture, and he’s in first grade now. Dog #1 has died; the dog, Baxter, is almost two now. Honestly, I wish I had been taking aerial photos over the toilet for the past decade. What those knees have been seeking for more than a decade are some sun and a little privacy.
As a mother of three young children, the truth is that even if I lock the door, I can’t even pee in peace. On this parenting journey, I have at times yearned for more “me time,” even the ability to “get my life back.” (Can anyone relate?) But parenting is the life. Without getting too philosophical, Jesus said if you want to find your life, you have to lose it for others. Day-in and day-out, I do the mundane and the magnificent, but mostly the mundane. And most of the time it’s wonderful. But sometimes it isn’t. Sometimes I simply don’t want to be interrupted while I’m pooping. I never have to poop when they’re at school. It’s always when they’re home. Always.
There is really no way to prepare for parenthood. Especially if you are a Type-A person like I am and you have to learn to let a lot of things go. You will find authenticity here. I hope that if you visit, you will be affirmed, inspired, and perhaps learn or share something. I need help from other parents because this is the toughest job I’ve ever had. I hope here at Pee in Peace we can all find a little relief and a lot of laughs. But for now I must go – all three kids are playing nicely (hallelujah!) and nature calls!!
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